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On being nice to everybody
Hi guys. I don’t know why and how but whenever I begin writing something that is to be shared with you guys I start feeling ecstatic lol. But anyway!
So this one is important, and crazily annoying, sometimes.
There’s something called “being nice” and there’s something known as “people pleaser” and a lot of other terms but I’m not sure which category I fall in. All I know is that I just can’t say no to anyone!
I’ve never actually found anything bad in being nice to everybody but in the past couple of years, I’ve seen people take me for granted just because when you try to act nicely with everyone and try to please everyone, you lose your worth somehow.
Not sure if this is actually true or not but I feel like by being nice to everybody all the time and being available for people all the time, you lose your charm, and importance and some other things also that I can’t seem to remember. Do you agree that this happens?
I tend to be nice and sweet and open even towards people I hardly know. I’ll meet someone at a party and start talking to him/her like I’ve known him/her for a very long time. Lol I know I know that’s funny but that’s how I am!! I like being nice to people, but the point of the matter is that I also continue being nice to people that talk ill about me or those who ignore me or whatever, just because I don’t want to be bad to anyone.
But there’s a difference between being bad with people and being YOU. I mean, there’s nothing wrong with being nice but why do I have to be available for people all the time? Even for those who’re not available for me all the time. That’s where I lose it. I’ve noticed people tend to like those who’re bold and who just act the way they like it, not the way how others like it. Yeah?
So maybe I should try to change myself a little bit, by not being bad to anyone but I just need to be myself! If a joke doesn’t look funny to me i don’t need to laugh just for the sake of the person sending or telling me joke right?? And vice versa.
If I’m not in a mood for something I need not say yes just because the sake of other people right?
Sigh! That’s gonna be hard for me but let’s just give it a try cuz damn I’ve seen people change!!! They changeee if you’re available for them all the time and they start taking you for granted!!